Have you ever wondered why you do what you do, or tried not to feel what you feel?
We all have a multitude of parts within us, and sometimes parts do and feel things we wish they wouldn't. But what if you could understand how each part of you learned to do what it does and feel what it feels? What if you could find compassion for every part of you, and at the same time help them let go of the burdens that keep you from being freely and fully you?
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is both a framework for understanding our behavior and a transformational model used to engage internal conflict, release burdens or agreements that no longer serve us, and reintegrate parts we've buried or hidden (either because we devalue them or because they've been wounded by others). After some time experiencing the IFS model, you will be able to practice it on your own.
(IFS was developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, founder of IFS Institute. You can learn more about IFS Institute here.)
Internal Family Systems
(how I help you become more you)
Have you ever thought of your life as an epic story?
The truth is we all have a story — and whether we realize it or not, the way we tell that story impacts how we relate to ourselves and others. The more aware we become of where we've been and where we're going, the more empowered we will be to live today in ways that honor our own beauty. What might it be like to better know, engage, and even come to love your own story?
Allender Theory is designed to help us engage with kindness the places in our story where we feel shame and contempt, in order to facilitate hope and transformation.
(Allender Theory was developed by Dr. Dan Allender, co-founder of The Allender Center at The Seattle School. You can learn more about The Allender Center here. )
Have you ever noticed your body and heart don't always agree with what your mind believes to be true? Much of the western world values cognitive reasoning above other ways of knowing and experiencing — and it’s true that what you think matters — but your mind is not the only part of you that impacts what you do and who you are becoming. Real and lasting transformation involves the whole of us: mind, body, soul and spirit.
One crucial part of addressing any obstacles to transformation is engaging how we live in (or attempt to escape) our bodies. In some cases, bodies remember past events and respond as if the very same danger is imminent even after the original threat has passed. For some, trauma is systemic and ongoing; therefore, the body needs compassionate care while the threat to safety continues. Often, in an attempt to protect ourselves from more pain, we ignore what our bodies are telling us — which, unfortunately, leads to even more trauma. By teaching you to be mindful and attuned to your own body, I can help you identify what kind of care will be most beneficial. Instead of being at war with your body or reacting to stress in compulsive or harmful ways, you can learn to listen to and even love your own body, receiving and responding to its wisdom with kindness, agency, and integrity.
Another important aspect of transformation is engaging matters of the soul and spirit. Because no part of you functions without impacting and being impacted by the rest, it's difficult to approach matters of the mind and body without also engaging the soul and spirit. Sometimes people ask me if my coaching is faith-based, and my answer is both yes and no; while my own faith is rooted in and shaped by Christianity, I have no interest in persuading my clients to adopt a particular set of beliefs or expression of faith. To me, caring for you well means continually doing the work of becoming more culturally sensitive, and creating a safe space for you to: name the truth about where you've been and where you are now; deepen and heal your relationship with your own soul; and discover what the next stage of spiritual development looks like for you.