Have you ever wondered why you do what you do—as if one part of you knows exactly what you wish you'd do, but some other part takes over and does something else entirely? Or have you ever found yourself feeling something you wish you didn't, then working really hard to talk yourself out of feeling that way?
We all have a multitude of parts within us, and sometimes certain parts of us do and feel things that other parts of us wish they wouldn't. But what if you could understand exactly why you do and feel what you do? What if you could find compassion for every part of you, and at the same time help them break free from the patterns of thinking and behavior that keep you feeling stuck?
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is both a framework for understanding our behavior and an evidence-based transformational model used to balance internal conflict, release burdens or agreements that no longer serve us, and integrate parts of us we've previously buried or hidden (either because we devalue them or because they've been wounded by others). After some time experiencing the benefits of the IFS model, you will be able to practice it on your own.
IFS was developed by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D., founder of The Center For Self-Leadership.
Internal Family Systems
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Allender Story Methodology
Have you ever thought of your life as an epic story?
The truth is we all have a story—and whether we realize it or not, the way we tell that story impacts how we relate to ourselves and others. The more aware we become of where we've been and where we're going, the more empowered we will be to live today in ways that honor our own beauty and potential. What might it be like to better know, engage, and even come to love your own story?
The Allender Center at The Seattle School is an organization committed to addressing the impact of harm on individuals, relationships, and communities through the engagement of story. Its methodology is designed to help us engage with kindness the places in our story where we feel shame and contempt, in order to facilitate hope and transformation.
The Allender story methodology was developed by Dan Allender, Ph.D., co-founder of The Allender Center at The Seattle School.
Have you ever noticed that your body and heart don't always agree with what your mind believes to be true? Much of the western world values cognitive reasoning above other ways of knowing and experiencing—and it’s true that what you think matters—but your mind is not the only part of you that impacts what you do and who you are becoming. Real and lasting transformation involves the whole of us: mind, body, soul and spirit.
One crucial part of addressing any obstacles to transformation is engaging how we live in (or attempt to escape) our bodies. Sometimes our bodies remember past events and continue to act as if we are in danger even after we are safe. Other times stress gets stuck in our bodies in the form of energy that needs to be cleared or released. By teaching you to be mindful and attune to your own body, I can help you identify what kind of care will be most beneficial. Through somatic exercises and/or guided meditations, I can also help you release energy that no longer serves you so that you can receive the support your body most needs.
Soul Work and Spiritual Development
Because no part of you functions without impacting and being impacted by the rest, it's difficult to approach matters of the mind and body without also addressing matters of the soul and spirit. When it comes to engaging the soul and addressing spiritual development, I draw upon a variety of tools, traditions, and research, including the contemporary Enneagram Of Personality, the ancient Celtic and Christian mystical traditions, and the work of Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Dr. Bill Plotkin, and poet-philosopher David Whyte (to name just a few). I will respect whatever spiritual beliefs or practices you bring with you and will only attempt to discuss spiritual matters to the point that you are comfortable doing so. You get to choose what level of engagement seems right for you!